One Week To Go!

Last night, I had another bad wedding nightmare.

In this one, somehow I was getting married on a pier, which was confusing because it wasn't the venue I had planned. I get there and I see the bridesmaids and I freaked out because all but one (Julianna, still wearing her planned dress) was wearing a red bridesmaid dress. I demand to know “What the heck are you all wearing!? These aren’t the Disney dresses we planned for you to wear!” Someone says that “The Network gave us these and we thought you wanted us to wear them…” and I’m like “Noooo!” Julianna is like “See, I told you guys she would want us in the dresses she made.”

Somehow, the dream proceeds and I’m at the point where I’m supposed to walk down the aisle, but my dad is in the audience instead of beside me, thinking that he’s not supposed to walk me down the aisle at all, and to my left, is a small boom box. Apparently, I was supposed to press play to play the music I was supposed to walk down the aisle to. I press play, and something comes on that is NOT the music I had planned to perform down the aisle to. Someone’s like “You should just go anyway. You can sing your song to this song!” So I start to perform down the aisle, singing, and halfway down, I freak out and I’m like “I can’t do this. I know I said I wasn’t going to do this when the real wedding happened, but everyone just go home and await further instructions. We will reconvene when it is finally correct.”

Everyone starts to mill about slightly confused. Someone finds me and convinces me that the whole purpose of this whole thing is that I can marry Josh, and that I should just do it. So I find Josh and we just get married.

Later, I’m biking around the neighborhood I grew up in going to see my grandparents, and my friend Diana, who couldn’t make it to my wedding, and I’m giving them a copy of the dvd from the wedding so that they could watch the whole thing. It’s actually all on two disks. I end up sitting down to watch a copy with my friend Diana, and as it starts, it has Meryl Streep playing me, in a different dress, and all the bridesmaids in red, and it’s at a church, and the whole thing runs very smoothly. Apparently, the network (who, in the dream, wanted to make a TV production of my wedding) took some creative licensing with my wedding. I really wanted Diana to see the actual wedding, the true mess that it was, and I remember that I had my friends Ben and Lynae live streaming it on Facebook and Instagram, and Facebook saves their live streams, so I go to hunt down those copies for her, and my grandparents to see.

First wedding nightmare that I actually go through with it in spite of everything that went wrong. I can only attribute this to my cousin Nadia repeatedly giving me “The Talk” about how I’m going to handle it at my wedding when things go wrong—smile and keep going. She has done this so much at this point, no wonder it’s made it into my dreams.

I knew, when I took the half pill of the Tylenol PM, that I was asking for a nightmare, but I was so desperate for sleep that I did it. I had taken several Melatonin’s with no results yet and that was the thing that did it. I’m one of those people that, every time I take the typical sleep aid (not Melatonin), I get nightmares. I don’t know why, but it’s a sure way to get them for me.

Real Problems:
1. Lost our Photographer & Videographer

Speaking of wedding nightmares—last weekend, we discovered that we had somehow managed to not properly book our photographer and videographer that we thought we had. Our wedding coordinator sent me an e-mail with the wedding day agenda and advised that I forward it to our vendors, so I did. The guy got back to me and told me they didn’t have us down on their calendar. He said he never received the reservation form!

So I frantically go looking through my e-mails and discover that it appears what happened was that, even though I had spoken to him on the phone and confirmed everything, and even though we had multiple e-mail’s, he had told me he was going to send me a reservation form that I needed to fill out and get back to him. After the phone call, I had sent him two e-mails waiting on this reservation form, and then he finally sent it, but I somehow never got it back to him!

I quickly filled it out and e-mailed it back, but at this point, it was too late—he was already going on vacation that weekend, and his partner had another booking.

So I proceeded to quickly freak out about not having a photographer and videographer, but my cousin Mary was actually able to find someone for us, and Josh’s brother Kyle’s friend does videography, and we were able to book both for our wedding, thankfully.

2. Sent only two 13 in cake pillars

Wednesday, I drove down to Vegas to drop off decorations and stuff at the venue. When I got there, I asked the venue if they had received the cake supplies I had ordered and requested be sent there. They showed me the box and I discovered that Wilton.com had only sent me TWO 13 inch cake pillars! It doesn’t say how many pillars they are selling on the listing, I had to look in the comments below to see how many people said were in the listing. People said it was four pillars, so I had only bought one order of them.

It took several weeks for the wedding venue to get this order, so I had to have Josh quickly purchase a rush order of another order of the cake pillars, which is more expensive than regular shipping. I’m very not happy about this and plan on writing an unhappy letter to Wilton.com about this—Who can do anything with only two cake pillars anyway!? That’s not going to hold anything up! Ug!

3. Still haven’t received our Unity Ceremony…

 I specifically asked the Etsy vendor if she could get it to us by the 25^th, so that we could have it when we leave in the order message, but she just got it shipped yesterday, so I’m not sure that’s going to happen. Ug.

Things that have fallen into place:

The favors are done! They are so cool, I can’t wait for everyone to get them—they are a surprise though.

The programs are done! Also super cool!

I finally got the shoes I ordered from a site called milanoo.com, even though it took so long, we ordered another pair of shoes, but these shoes came in the next day, so we canceled that order. Also, I’m pretty sure the site deleted my account, so I would not recommend using this site…

My friend Gage helped me choreograph the ceremony dances for the bridal party! That’s pretty cool.

Only one week to go! This time next week, I will be freaking out about my wedding that will be happening in a few hours! I can’t believe it!

Another Wedding NIghtmare

This time, I think the setting was actually the venue that we got. The woman who manages the place was there.

The last time that we talked to her in real life, we asked about a dress rehearsal. She said that we didn't need one because she would be there and would tell everyone when it was their turn to walk down the aisle. I told her that since our wedding was a musical, with singing and dancing, it would be good if we had a dress rehearsal and she saw my point. She said that we could have one for an hour the day before, which is great and exactly what we needed.

In the dream, she was there telling the bridal party to "Go! Go! Go!" as if she were telling them to parachute off an airplane--like in the movies. It wasn't relaxing, it was very stressful.

So the bridal party is pretty much racing down the aisle.

Finally, I come out, and am crying because no only did no one do all the singing and dancing I had planned, but also, there was no photographer or videographer. No one was documenting our wedding--so it was going to be like it never happened. The whole thing was not at all what I had planned and wanted. I was so upset, I (again--I always do this in these dreams) tell everyone to go home, and we will try this again, another time. A THIRD TIME. In this dream, this was the second attempt at a wedding--probably a sequel to one of my other many wedding nightmares.

This dream is obviously playing off my insecurities. No, we haven't booked a photographer or videographer yet, but that's ok! We have time. The wedding is 11 months away now (as Nadine pointed out to me yesterday). We don't want to jump into hiring someone super expensive. We want to be as reasonable as we can, but still get what we want.

In regards to the singing and dancing, I've been thinking about that lately. I found karaoke versions of the songs, and I've been choreographing it in my mind (not on paper, but I have ideas!) I need to do that though, because the sooner I can, the sooner they all can start practicing, so that they can be ready when the time comes. It's hard since we are all in different places, so far away. :(

I am definitely going to try to get the guys to do a little singing and dancing too. It's not a ton--none of it is unmanageable for any of them! About one and a half songs is all I'm really asking. Josh says that he won't make his guys do anything they don't want to do, but I'm the bride. I feel like they will naturally just want to make me happy--or at least I hope that is the case.

Speaking of the guys--Josh is finally doing that! I am so glad. He really needed to get on that; it's only taken him over a year... he's doing it now though. And we are going to get all their headshots and bios for the wedding site! And we are going to have two more photo shoots! And by the end of September, our goal is to have all our Save the Date's out. :)

I also never told you about the dance classes! Josh and I have started taking dance classes at Fred Astaire Dance Studios. We have an instructor, Bo, who is super fun to work with! He has been teaching us waltz, swing, fox trot, and rumba, and we are getting pretty good! We just had our third lesson last Monday! I can't wait to go to my cousin Teresa, and my friend Nadine's weddings in November and show off our amazing dance moves!

So exciting that things are finally moving along!